Before we can learn how to appropriately satisfy our emotional needs it is necessary to identify them.
Rate the following emotional needs from 1 (No way that's me) to 5 (Definitely me). On the blank Blueprint for Total Success (see figure 1), list those emotional needs you rated highest in the box marked "Emotional Needs".Listing of Emotional Needs
Rate the following items from 1 [No way that's me] to 5 [Definitely me]:
|Receive attention||Feel important||Be successful|
|Receive admiration||Feel secure||Be in control|
|Receive respect||Feel free or unrestricted||Be right|
|Receive acceptance||Feel valuable||Be a leader|
|Receive recognition||Feel needed||Be useful|
|Receive appreciation||Feel safe||Be fashionable|
|Receive praise||Feel loved||Teach others|
|Receive credit or thanks||Feel connected||Accomplish or achieve|
|Receive compliments||Feel heard or listened to||Maintain order|
|Receive care||Feel whole||Give to others|
|Receive support||Feel complete||Be perfect|
|Receive gifts||Feel excited||Be responsible|
|Receive tenderness||Feel energized||Be busy/work hard|
|Receive touch||Feel at peace||Be creative|
|Receive information||Feel inspired||Maintain consistency|
|Receive help||Feel honored||Be different/unique|
|Receive loyalty||Feel clarity/certainty||Get results|
|Receive encouragement||Feel desired||Do the right thing|
Emotional Needs not listed:
|Answer the following questions. Your answers will aid
you in creating your goals and establishing your strategies. Using a
scale of 0 to 100 (0 = totally unsatisfied to 100 = totally satisfied):
How well are you satisfying each Emotional Need right now?
Have these Emotional Needs been satisfied in the past? Who or what helped satisfy them?
What are 3 action steps you can take this week that will help start satisfying each of your emotional needs in a healthy and constructive manner?
Emotional Needs Action Steps:
Referring to Figure 2 (Emotional Needs box), there are two listed needs; the needs to receive praise and to be in control. If looked upon in the context of a dentist’s personal and professional lives, these emotional needs can be satisfied through various avenues. The need to receive praise can be satisfied by receiving praise from patients, staff, civic organizations and family. Assuming the dentist receives sufficient praise to satisfy the emotional need from patients and staff, the dentist may not need to infringe on family time with excessive involvement with civic organizations. However, if the need to be in control affects staff management style, and the dentist does not receive adequate praise from staff, the need to seek praise from another outlet (civic organizations) may be sought. This may reduce the time spent with family resulting in overall familial discontent.
Once emotional needs are recognized, you have the ability to evaluate how well the goals you want to achieve will satisfy them. The greater satisfaction and the less conflict you derive from working toward and achieving your goals, the greater chance of achieving Total Success.
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