Identifying Emotional Needs

Before we can learn how to appropriately satisfy our emotional needs it is necessary to identify them.

Rate the following emotional needs from 1 (No way that's me) to 5 (Definitely me). On the blank Blueprint for Total Success (see figure 1), list those emotional needs you rated highest in the box marked "Emotional Needs".

Listing of Emotional Needs

Referring to Figure 2 (Emotional Needs box), there are two listed needs; the needs to receive praise and to be in control. If looked upon in the context of a dentist’s personal and professional lives, these emotional needs can be satisfied through various avenues. The need to receive praise can be satisfied by receiving praise from patients, staff, civic organizations and family. Assuming the dentist receives sufficient praise to satisfy the emotional need from patients and staff, the dentist may not need to infringe on family time with excessive involvement with civic organizations. However, if the need to be in control affects staff management style, and the dentist does not receive adequate praise from staff, the need to seek praise from another outlet (civic organizations) may be sought. This may reduce the time spent with family resulting in overall familial discontent.

Once emotional needs are recognized, you have the ability to evaluate how well the goals you want to achieve will satisfy them. The greater satisfaction and the less conflict you derive from working toward and achieving your goals, the greater chance of achieving Total Success.